I have been the worship pastor at my church for a little over two years now with a predominantly male volunteer and staff base. Previous to being the worship pastor at Destiny Christian Church in Rocklin, CA, I served as an associate worship pastor, a college group worship leader, and before that…. a worship intern (basically, I served as the stage vacuumer, coffee runner, and music organizer.) Worship ministry has been a huge part of my life for a little over 8 years now, so as I look back on my journey as a woman in worship ministry from intern to worship pastor, I have reflected on some of the struggles and lessons learned along the way:
1. I
don’t have
anything to prove.
This was a HUGE
struggle for me. When I moved away to college, I was struck for the first time
how much assumption was placed into the idea that women were musically
incompetent. As someone who had studied music her entire life, you can imagine
my struggle when I walked into settings where my competence was questioned MERELY because of my gender; it was a
grace-growing opportunity to learn how to navigate having a tough skin but
maintaining a tender spirit, not lashing out in anger, but instead
approaching the situation with a meek and gentle demeanor. I did not let people
walk all over me, or speak down to me, but I also had to learn that I am
accountable to Christ alone: I have nothing to prove. I am responsible to
be a good steward of the gifts God has given me, lead in GRACE, and walk out a
life of integrity, love, peace, and gentleness.
2. Being a woman does not give me a ‘free pass’ to be ignorant of Theology.
Women
tend to be very emotionally-charged beings—we are very in-touch with who we are, and the world around
us. We feel very deeply, and tend to base our ‘reality’ (or
what we perceive to be the reality of God) on how we are feeling. Now
don’t get me wrong… our feelings and emotional
intimacy with the world around us is an amazing GIFT from God. However, if ‘feelings’ are not coupled with proper orthodoxy, we can easily be led
astray. The Scriptures say to TEST all
things (including our own emotions or even perceptions of what we believe to be
the ‘voice’ of the Holy Spirit) and
approve it by the Scriptures before
accepting it as God’s
Truth. (1 Thessalonians 5:21, 1 John
4:1). It is dangerous territory to NOT know the Word, and yet attempt to lead
people into the Presence of God. If we do not KNOW God, or the Christian
perspective of the world, how are we expected to lead people in the charge of
pursuing right relationship with Him? Study the Word, and KNOW the God you
serve.
3. Do not isolate yourself from other women, and do not forget
to INVEST in the Kingdom.
Being
that most worship teams are predominantly male, it is so easy as a female
worship leader (or worship pastor) to begin to just ‘spend time with the guys’ and forget to invest in the other females around you. This
can happen for many reasons, the most common being jealousy. If you are the
ONLY female on your team, you can begin to feel extremely territorial: You feel
like you are so incredibly needed…
one of a kind, even! This can lead to you shutting out opportunities for
other women to become involved in worship ministry. Oftentimes, you will
nit-pick other females’ abilities
simply because you are insecure about your place in ministry. Continue
to remind yourself of this not-so-fun fact: YOU ARE NOT INDISPENSABLE (nor
SHOULD you be.) YOU are replaceable. It is unhealthy to create an environment
that rises and falls solely around your presence.
As leaders, we
need to be investing in other leaders…
as FEMALES, we need to be investing, mentoring, and walking with OTHER
females. We also need to remember to ALWAYS have people in our lives who have
the permission to speak into us, hold us accountable, and challenge us. It
would be my greatest downfall as a leader to have a ministry which was dependent solely on my own
abilities: I should continuously be multiplying and developing those around me.
4. It is less about ‘Being a Woman in Ministry’ and MORE about ‘Being a Christ-Follower’
We can spend so
much time getting hung up on ‘what
it means’ to be a woman in
ministry that we forget our ultimate calling in life: To love God, love others,
serve Him faithfully, and live a life WORHTY of the calling marked out for us.
Spend time in the Word. Listen to the Holy Spirit. Surround yourself with
people who hold you accountable. Be a good steward. KNOW who God created you to
be…. and then be that
person on PURPOSE.
Be sure to follow Rachel's journey on Instagram. Make sure you get over to iTunes and download Destiny Christian Church's new EP Our Great King. My favorite song is Halleluiah, What A Savior. Rachel adds a modern touch to a song I already love so dearly. Make sure you give it a listen!
Also! If you are a woman in worship ministry, I would to love to share your heart and perspective! If that sounds like something you would be interested in, please email me at ParrishTheThoughtBlog@gmail.com
See you soon!
Hello Rachel my name is Hope Barbosa and i was recently released from prison and was away on the most beautiful journey with the lord during my 4 in a half stay i just wanted to share with you how amazing your voice is such a beautiful soul. God used Hillsong church to keep me connected and on fire while i was on the inside and i just wanted to reach out and thank you for all you do.
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